Saturday, November 22, 2008

The "Only" one

Are you ever the "only" one that has to take and pick up your own kid and his/her friends and deliver them to their destination? Well I am and have been now for sometime. It used to be that there were some other Parents that were considerate enough to help out. My Youngest Son is 16 and so close to having his drivers license, which really wouldn't make too much difference because then I will start the "new" worry when he is out on his own. Anyway, now seems that his friends Parents are never ever willing to share this huge responsibility. I have always been know as the "cool" Mom and of course I like that. This title comes with so many extra duties too. Most of these poor kids can either stay at home, have a driving friend pick them up or me pick them up. It has finally gotten to me for the last time. I try real hard to explain to these teens about making plans and communicating about how they are getting where they plan on going and they just don't get it. My Son told me today that we had a "generation gap", I laughed and said that every generation experiences that. We are very close, and now that he is a young adult going on 30 something, we tend to clash a little more about these kids of things. My Son means well and I know that the other kids do to, I am just trying to get them to respect others, like me, and think of others and not just themselves. I feel like I am the Mother to many kids most times. I just wish that the other Parents were willing to shuttle all the kids around like I do. I have had to put my foot down today, because I ran them around last night and today. Then they wanted me to do the same again tonight as their plans changed abruptly, their driver all of a sudden could not take the car out, and his Parents always do this. It is a very sad thing, but I told my Son that they could all stay in at our house tonight or they could all go home, but I was not going to chauffeur again tonight. Most of the time I give in because I know that my Son and his friends have found other ways, not always safe, of getting where they want to go and I would not be able to live with myself if anything ever happened to them because I would not take them. I wish the other Parents would feel that same guilt. At least now I have the weather on my side, since it is a chilling 39 degrees right now, brrrr......so for now they are all in our house chillin' and eating and enjoying each other's company. I know this "kodak" moment won't last long. I am sure I will have to continue to some degree of shuttling the kids around. I just hope I can convince myself to remain calm about it. Soon enough our kids will be grown and gone :)

Remember: Never quit loving your kids, no matter what.

8 comments:

Roxy said...

I am glad my days of being the designated driver for my kids are in the passed. Sounds like your almost there. Your 16 yr old will soon take over. Hopefully he will do it safely. Yes that's another worry all us moms go through.
Enjoy those kodak moments and even your job as the chauffeur soon they will all be grown. Not much you can do about the idiot parents who alway expect someone else to do the driving.
I enjoyed your post today.
I am reading a Stephen King novel.
Which I have kids driving me crazy I miss them. My life is way to quite.

Roxy said...

I am really bad about checking my post before I hit that button. They need to put an edit bottom for post
My last sentence

Wish I had kids driving me crazy .......

Oh and spell check would be nice too!!

eve cleveland said...

Oh, Girl...
Look on Craig's list. See, all the other parents signed for the Time Share Parent Condo. Says right there that meals and transportation are included. You should be making a killing right now. I'd like to get all 20 of mine in. Do you have any more vacancies?
Eve

Anne said...

Oh yes, I can totally relate to you. It was like that with my teenage daughter. Now that my son is a teenager, I have to admit, I have slacked at being a chauffeur and let the other mothers do most of the driving. I know it's not fare though, and I can imagine what they think of me. But I did do a lot of driving my daughter and her pals around for years till she drove. Thank you for visiting my blog. I have two blogs if your interested in checking the other one out. Nice meeting you.

Sabrae said...

Now I know what to look forward to when we have kids! lol lots of driving! :)Oh wait... lol that is the wifes dept! haha

Vodka Mom said...

I hear you!! We live in town, so we are the house that everyone comes to. THe problem is, I am the one driving them to this or that or this or that. Now that Bitchy is in college, and Sassy is driving, not so much. But I still have The Golden BOy and his friends. I don't mind SO much, but jesus. It does get old.

Anne said...

Hello, I was just stopping by to check in to see your blog again. Have a nice day.

Janie said...

It's good to draw the line sometimes - I hope you all had fun at the house! Sounds LOVELY.

My sons are out of the house and I miss times like that!